If you are to look at your current status in life, masasabi mo bang you are successful or not? Sa tingin mo ba there are factors that distinguish a person as successful or unsuccessful? Meron bang secret formula book or movie to read or see in order to become a successful person? Quite simply, the answer is a big NO. The key differences between successful or unsuccessful people are down to habits and our attitude to accept change.
In general, these conventional characteristics form and shape our thoughts and attitudes and define us in how we approach problems or challenges at work and at home.
Successful people evolve their behavior to achieve excellence, sila yung mga malakas ang loob at di basta magpapatalo while unsuccessful people do not change or learn from their terrible habits and struggle to manage in their day to day lives. Sila naman yung matitigas ang ulo or mga pasaway sa buhay.
To give you a better understanding, here are the key differences in practices between these two types of people:
1. Ability to delay gratification
Unsuccessful people tend to waste their time and are easily distracted everyday which looses huge amounts of time. They for the most part, are too involved in the particular details of a problem to be able to look at it as a whole or in any perspective.
Successful people possess higher patience, an aptitude to postpone or delay the enjoyment of their work. They have the ability to work hard to reach a goal which is not achieved for a long time. True to the saying “Kapag may tiyaga, may nilaga.”
2. A desire to improve
Unsuccessful people generally give up easily, act before they think and don’t take risks. They feel comfortable by staying on the “safe” side. They won’t feel happy taking on any situation where they don’t feel safe or at ease. Wala talagang mararating ang taong duwag or takot.
Successful people in contrast, look forward to new challenges and learn from them in order to make positive changes in their professional or personal lives -- irrespective of the desire of the attempt to improve, and regardless of the actual outcomes. Sabi nga nila, try and try until you succeed.
3. Sense of ownership
Successful people look forward to learning from their faults. They identify and accept their failures but then take responsibility to make sure, not to repeat the same mistake twice. Kahit anong kapalpakan pa yan, successful people accepts and learns from them.
On the other hand, unsuccessful people are often set in their ways and stubborn. These people tend to talk more than listen, have stopped learning from their mistakes and generally fear change of any kind. Sila yung hindi nakikita ang mali at matitigas ang ulo, kapag nagtagal ay wala na talagang pag-asa.
4. Target and goal-oriented
Successful people have short-term and long-term goals which give them a clear plan on how to achieve their target. This serves as a guideline or road map and helps keep them motivated and on track. They set achievable goals they can accomplish. In short, sila yung mga taong may plano at pangarap sa buhay na gagawin ang lahat ma-achieve lang nila.
Kapag wala naman direksyon sa buhay, these are the unsuccessful people who struggle to work out what to do next, don’t know what they want to achieve or how to do it and quite often secretly hope others fail, rather than help them succeed.
5. Big-picture thinking
Successful people have a maturity to face problems head on which broadens their experience. This big picture thinking gives them clear direction on what to do next. Sabi nga nila, always look at the bright side and the bigger picture at lahat ng bagay ay pagsubok lamang.
However, the small or narrow minded thinking of unsuccessful people shortens or limits their vision and leads them to become a follower, rather than a leader. These people easily criticize without ever putting forward an alternative idea or opinion and in the most part, tend to be always angry towards others who are able to achieve their goals.
6. Problem solving and value of time
A truly successful person is never defeated and puts up a fight no matter how bad the situation. Successful people’s ability to overcome adversity is so strong, that when they fall down, they simply get back up again. You can never knock them out, lalaban at lalaban talaga sila.
Unsuccessful people on the other hand, cannot get ahead in life and simply give up at the first hurdle; they lack drive, fight and determination. These people look for any excuse to take a break from what they are doing. They don’t complete work, responsibilities or projects on time and often blame others for their mistakes, rather than take responsibility themselves. These type of people ay yung mabilis sumuko sa laban at maghahanap na lang ng easy way out pag naiipit na.
7. Strong sense of belief
Successful people have an inner belief or self-awareness and are recognized as unique individuals. Kelangan ipakita mo na iba ka at malayo ang mararating mo sa buhay.
In total contract, unsuccessful people have a narrow-minded vision of themselves and their character in the world. Their effort is self-oriented and personally driven. In many cases, these people try to bring others down to their level and think, say and do negative things which only ever achieves poor or average results.
Paolo Martel is the Managing Director of Ikon Solutions Asia Inc., a POEA-licensed agency.
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